Why rules girls don’t do bumble

Hello beautiful 💕

Today one of my girls from my group posted an article from Psychology Today.

This article challenged the rules of chivalry, where men should make the first move when it comes to love and asked why women aren’t initiating more.

When someone sends the first message, men or women, they always send it to someone more attractive, which results in women waiting to receive messages dating men less attractive than them. Women who initiate contact end up dating men far more attractive than themselves.

So why not reach out? Especially when men almost always will reply to your message.

So here comes bumble, who has clocked on this phenomenon and is exploiting it as a business.

On bumble, women initiate, and the guy will nearly always reply. My god, I get reminded of this every day from all types of women.

To the innocent eye, women taking the initiative and the guy almost always replying is great.

Right?

Wrong!

When you initiate contact, and the guy is responsive, you’re already creating an unbalanced relationship before it has even begun. This means the girl is already worshipping the guy; she picked him because she thought he was handsome, had a good job, played the right sports, and had the right political views. (Cue in Brigitte Jones practising her signature on a piece of paper “Mr and Mrs Darcy”)

The guy, in turn, gets all this attention, and he thinks he’s the prize; he didn’t have to do any work to get the girl; these bumble girls are getting dates, then planning them, choosing the place, the day, the time. They choose the activity that the date will entail, coffee, cinema, dinner, cuisine; how is the guy going to say no to all of that? A good percentage of these women will also pay for the dates or go 50/50. Sign me up! I hear guys say. And let’s not even talk about the percentage of women that will on top sleep with them on the first date.

That is on the first date. After that, you’ll be lucky to get a second date.

But now, let’s get serious.

You tell me how do you think this is going to end. You tell me what kind of husbands these guys are going to make.

Let’s look at how things work differently when you do the Rules.

First of all, let me assure you that your husband will not be butt ugly when you do the Rules I think Rules girls marry quite handsome men in general, but the thing is that whether he’s handsome or not, it is not going to be the driving force of your relationship. Instead, your relationship will be based on other traits that he must prove to you before you even agree to have a first date with him, and he will constantly be proving himself to you all the way to the altar.

The thing is that in a Rules relationship, you will be the prize, not him.

He will worship you, not the other way around.

He will be taking care of you; you will not need to mother him; he’s a grown man.

He will plan your dates, and you will let him because it’s more important to the girl to be romanced than for the girl to romance the guy. If you romance him, who will romance you?

And we all know that men love a challenge; if there is no challenge, how long before he gets bored.

What will he have to look forward to if you do the guy’s job?

By doing the Rules, you will inspire him to be a better man, a gentleman, a chivalrous one, and he will treat you like a princess. He will treat you like you deserve. And by you allowing him this honour, you’ll be creating a balanced, harmonious relationship where both parties are equal. You will both make each other happy. You both win.

Love Penny 💕

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