Get to know me better
Get to know me better
Hello beautiful 💕
Happy Easter !!!!
Due to popular demand, I have done a few posts on Instagram allowing you to get to know me a bit better. Also, I’ve put a little pic in there so you can see me.
You asked me some questions and I’ve done my best to answer them.
I have put all the 12 posts here for you so if you want to know more about me keep reading.
My name is Penny Love and I’m a certified rule dating and relationships coach ❤️
I’m also a life coach so I’m a great package deal 👩🏻💻
A little bit more about me is that I’m originally from Spain but I’ve lived in London over 20 years and I just love it here 💕
I speak English 🇬🇧 and Spanish 🇪🇸
India Kang was my coach. On our first coaching day, she said to me, “you should quit your job and become a coach”. I told her she was crazy 😜
And here I am today lol
I love you India. You’re my fairy godmother. I’m so grateful the universe led me to you and I’m so grateful for you being you 💕
Q. Are you married?
I’m currently single and dating.
I used to be married in my 20’s but of course, I didn’t know back then what I know today so I made lots of mistakes. After my divorce, I made even more mistakes but it all thankfully led me to find @therulesbook 📚 by @ellenfein1 and Sherrie Schneider.
You have probably heard me lovingly calling them Shellen 💕
If you haven’t read these books you’ve not lived.
Go get The Rules now!
Q. What has been your biggest “Rules mistake.”?
Where can I start? I made so many!
You all know that I’m far from perfect but I’ve mastered the rules by working very hard on myself.
The rules revealed to me the areas of my life that needed improvement.
For example:
“Don’t talk too much in the first few weeks. “
Omg, I used to talk so much on my dates that guys couldn’t get a word in edgeways.
Blah blah blah!
Why did I talk so much?
And why could I not shut it?
The journey to self-discovery began.
💕My self-love journey 💕
Today I’m still learning to love and accept myself whilst still working on my own self-improvement.
Everything I’ve learned and mastered I’ve put in my pride and joy:
✨The Love School✨
One of my clients said to me the other day.
“Penny, my heart is quiet now. “
Meaning that she’s found peace within herself and no longer needs to perform, be clever or funny or flirt shamelessly to get the guys attention.
🥰She’s learning to love herself first 🥰
Q. What are some of the mistakes you made when you were married?
The answer to this is so clear.
I didn’t do the rules before I married him 🤦🏻♀️
By not doing the rules I married the wrong guy.
It doesn’t matter what rules you do great or what rules you break when you’re married to the wrong man.
It’s not the rules you break or do great during your marriage that make the marriage work.
It’s the rules you stick to and the rules you break before you get married and the rules you turn a blind eye to plus the lies you tell yourself to justify them that will dictate the quality of your marriage.
You can’t start building a house from the roof.
You must start first by finding solid terrain and laying down strong foundations before you do anything else.
Therefore work on your future marriage by working on yourself today.
I can’t blame 21-year-old Penny for her mistakes back then as she didn’t know any better. I can only love her with all the tenderness and compassion of the world and forgive her.
Plus I can protect her today and her future by doing the rules to the best of my abilities to find a truly good man.
If you are coming out of a bad marriage look at the rules you broke before your marriage. Be very honest with yourself. This is not an exercise to assign blame though but to identify your weak spots and work on them before you allow the past to repeat itself.
Q. Do you have any children?
I’ve never had any. My gut told me not to have children with my ex-husband and I’m so happy I never did. I have always wanted to have children but only with the right man.
In the meantime, I have my sweet pug, Lola.
She’s 6 already and I’m not even embarrassed to admit she’s the love of my life.
All my clients know her as she is determined to crush every single consultation lol
Such a rude little diva but I love her lol 🐶🐾💕
Q. What is the best date that you have ever been on?
I’ve had great dates thanks to the rules.
I’ve gone to great restaurants, theatre plays, experiences, concerts, wine tasting, weekends away, gifts……
I’m very grateful that I have met so many amazing men that have treated me so well.
It is amazing what being a CUAO can do for your dating life.
But the best date is still to come when I meet my Mr Right sooooo ask me this again when I get married 💕
Q. What is your relationship with feminine energy?
After learning all about the rules I came to understand that the rules are based on the laws of human nature. The rules help you navigate the laws of polarity and therefore feminine energy was like a natural step for me.
The rules will always be counterintuitive when you’re in your masculine energy but when you lean back in your feminine power, the rules are just a breeze.
I even run my business using mostly feminine energy.
I feel really happy and free since I’ve surrendered to it.
Esther/Abraham-Hicks and Gabby Bernstein are my biggest feminine energy inspirations. They also happen to be LOA teachers.
My two great passions are aligned together 🥰
Q. What is your biggest fear?
I have many fears as I’m only human.
Dating brings a lot of fears onto the surface but one by one I have managed to overcome them.
Some I’ve done by myself, some with the help of my coach and some thanks to the amazing support system that I’ve surrounded myself with.
My daily positive affirmations help beat my fears every day.
Search for my macaroon graphics and save them on your phone. Especially the ones that begin with I am.
Read them when you feel low, before dates, before going to sleep.
Read and repeat them like a mantra.
You want to know what my fears are, they’re all there.
But I don’t let my fears beat me. I crush them with my positive affirmations.
I am beautiful
I am enough
I am worthy
And my favourite!
Any man would be like to have me.
Then I do it! I get out of the house and I put on my little black dress, and I super high heels and I show up for myself because I have a dream and I will not let my fears stop me from finding true love.
Q. How do you balance work and dating and your personal life?
Women are expected to juggle it all. I think we actually can if we want to.
We can do everything that we put our minds to it. 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻⠀
But.
A smart woman chooses what she takes on very carefully.
Choose what you need and what makes you happy. Choose those things that bring you joy. Work on what will make your life better, richer, easier, fuller and happier.
The more CUAO you are the more sense this will make.
When you start dropping off all the responsibilities that you have taken on that don’t serve you and only focus on those which do, you will suddenly find yourself with a lot of extra time and energy in your hands. Now you can do all the wonderful things you always wanted to! Yey!
Q. How did I get so good at the rules and what training and regime have you had?
As I’ve explained in previous posts the rules in practice didn’t come to me organically.
First I got a coach.
Then I listened to my coach
Then I did what my coach told me to do. Omg, I hated it at the beginning but then I saw and felt and experienced the results.
Then I put in the work
I studied the rules and read every book under the sun and more
I read all the blogs from all the rules coaches, I still do! They have so much more experience and they are great role models too.
I date. I go on duty dates, a lot!
And practice. I practice being quiet, I practice my walk in high heels on way to my date, I practice ending the date like a queen, I practice my answers, I practice getting my hair done on time lol. I practice what outfits look best on me what works, what doesn’t. I practice being confident, I practice trying to not look bored, I practice hiding my excitement when I meet someone cute.
Duty dating is key to getting really good at it, growing your confidence, rebuilding your self-esteem, to practice your boundaries. Duty dating allows you to make mistakes. Mistakes that you don’t want to make when you meet Mr Right. Duty dating can be magical, lots of Rules Girls meet their husbands on duty dates.
You never know what the universe has in store for you but as rules girls, we can be prepared for it.
Omg! This was a long long post I’m so sorry lol but if you got this far thank you thank you thank you for reading and thank you so much for following me and thank you so much for your questions.
I hope my experiences serve you in a practical way.
Join The Love School here
Love Penny 💕
