How to weed out Mr Wrong

Hi beautiful 💕

Saturday night I did a facebook live on my Facebook group, (join here), and we talked about weeding out the bad guys.

Lots of women come to me every day saying, I don’t want to go online dating because there are no good quality guys out there or I don’t want to go on tinder because tinder guys there they’re just after hookups.

The truth is that this is not entirely true but it’s not entirely wrong either. So what’s a girl to do in the big bad world of online dating then?

I’ve got your back girl!!!

The practice of boundaries is the most effective way of weeding out Mr Wrongs.

I’m going to teach you 7 boundaries you can implement today with tinder guys or any other app that will help you tons.

1 – Your dating profile
How you present yourself on a dating app is very important.
All you need is a very nice picture of your face.
Great makeup, great hair, great top or dress in a colour that complements your skin tone/eyes/hair and a great smile.
No pouty face, no duck lips, no bathroom selfies.

You will also need a second picture, a full body picture.
Just yourself, with a plain background.
Wear a great fitted dress that shows off your figure, highlighting your best bits. Sexy, not slutty.
Stand tall and smile.
Pose like if you’re at the oscars on the red carpet.
Tall, confident, proud of what you have got.
Smile, breatheeeeeee
No sexy posing, no friends, no family, no pets, no activity shots no 20 selfies.

If anyone asks you for more pictures you simply say “sorry no more pictures”.

The weeding out process has begun. You’re sending a visual message to guys saying – I’m gorgeous, I love myself, I’m a woman of high value, I’m classy and I have boundaries. I’m a catch.

2 – Your bio
Create a nice short bio for your online profile that will say a little about you.
Something like Hi, I’m Jane, a sales rep living in Fulham. When I’m not working I enjoy going to the theatre, the movies and music gigs. I also enjoy yoga, wine and chocolate. Looking for a guy who can keep up!
(ladies, I got more where this came from, contact me if you want your profile done professionally by me, my girls always love my profiles.)

3 – Using tinder gold
I recommend you use tinder gold because this will save you so much time and will guarantee that your relationship starts with the best possible chances. Guys match you first and all you have to do is swipe right from the pool of guys that already like you (See my tinder gold blog here)

4 – Letting guys initiate first contact
Once you match with guys, sit back and relax. Let them initiate by contacting you first.
They might say Hi, what is your favourite wine (referring to something from your awesome profile is a great sign) or they might just say Hi and that’s great too.

More weeding out here. By letting guys initiate you save yourself so much trouble. You’re weeding out guys that might not even like your look, are not into you, might just match you because you match them first and they want an easy ride

5 – The four message exchanges.
You give each guy 4 messages, which are 4 chances to get a date with you.
He might say
1-Hi gorgeous, so what is your favourite wine?
You might reply
Hi, I’m really into red wines lately.
He might say
2-We should meet up for a glass of red sometime then
You can reply
Sure, a glass of red sometime sounds great.

(Sometimes it doesn’t even take 4 exchanges, sometimes 2 exchanges is more than enough)
This is a guy who is serious about meeting you, he likes what he sees and will waste no time in asking you out. We love this type of exchange because it shows he’s confident, to the point, go getter kind of guy, just like you!

Your four message exchange might go like this too:
Him: Hi
You: Hi
Him: How are you
You: Great thanks
Him: What are you doing
You: This and that
Him: What are you up to

This is clearly a time-waster, he’s had his 4 chances. Now ignore him.
He is probably married, in between jobs, at catfish, low self-esteem, depressed, waiting for you to make a move which of course is just not going to happen or simply not that into you.
It doesn’t matter how great his profile is, how great he looks or how good he sounds of paper he’s been weeded out by this system. Let this match fall to the bottom of your tinder feed with lots of love and light.

6 – Wait in between messages.
Don’t reply immediately to any message. We constantly seek instant gratification by replying and checking our messages in nanoseconds.
Don’t.
Remember you’re a high-value goddess with a full life. Make sure to never reply during work hours or the morning.
Evenings are best and one or two messages per guy per day is more than enough. Once he’s actually asked you out then you can pick up the pace but don’t go crazy.
No chatting.

7 – Lean back
When you lean back and let him plan and organise the date it’s another opportunity for further weeding out.
Is he planning the date? Is he leading? Is he coming all the way to you and not making you travel half way to meet? Is he trying to pin you down?

Remember these boundaries will keep the Mr wrongs away but never the Mr Rights. 
In fact, Mr Right will actually respect you for having boundaries because he will immediately think oh wow, isn’t she something and chase you harder. He will prove himself to you and he will even enjoy doing it.

The more you practice self-love and self-worth the easier that implementing your boundaries will become.

Men expect woman of high value to have very strong boundaries so if you relax your boundaries they’ll think, “easy” or “low value” and you don’t want to risk being pigeonholed into none of those categories because the truth is that you are a magnificent goddess so don’t let yourself down.

If you find these boundaries too difficult to implement, I get it, I found it extremely hard at the beginning as well. Practice makes perfect.

Ready to get started?

I created a course called The beautiful art of feminine boundaries.

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Love Penny 💕